Posted on: 5 April 2016Share
Not being fertile is a huge deal to many people. It can cause stress on marriages and other relationships and make people feel as though they are inadequate. Here are some tips for managing the stress of infertility while you are undergoing fertility treatments in order to make the experience as palatable as possible.
1. Have a Quick Explanation Ready for the Holidays
When you were in high school, there probably were few worse things than having your relatives ask you over and over again where you wanted to go to college and what you were going to study when you didn't have an answer. You felt as though you were failing expectations and it wasn't possible for you to tell your well-meaning relatives to not ask you these questions.
Now that you are a full-fledged adult, you are able to frame your desire to not be badgered about your fertility in a way that clearly and respectfully communicates to family and friends that you don't want to talk about it. Having a line ready to deliver to people who as questions such as "I'm just here to have fun, not rehash personal matters," will help you avoid getting into conversations that you would rather avoid and take some of the stress out of the holidays.
2. Set a Time and a Place to Talk About Infertility
Another way to deal with infertility stress is to set a time and a place each week to talk about infertility with your partner and any concerns that either of you might have. You don't want to constantly be talking about the inability to conceive because it is going to cause you to associate your partner with a discussion topic that is painful for you. Make certain rooms safe spaces to not talk about this painful topic and try to reserve all of the stress of infertility to the one time a week when you allow yourself to talk about it. Otherwise, stay in the moment and focus on living your best life possible.
3. Try Not to Isolate Yourself Socially
It could be hard to go to a party where you see pregnant women or soon-to-be-dads and not feel inadequate. However, you can feel sure that no one is judging you should you go to these events. Try to form a core group of people to go to social events yet that are in a similar boat to yourself or that are single and not looking to have children. This will allow you to continue to get the social interaction that you need but will also allow you to remain insulated.
For more information, talk to a company like Women's Care Inc that can offer advice and solutions for infertility.